Finding Out Baby’s Gender: Yay or Nay?

Thanks to advancements in medicine and technology, we now have the option of finding out baby’s gender before they’re even born. This is a privilege our parents didn’t have. Before, people mainly relied on old wives’ tales like if you craved sweets, it was a girl or if you were carrying low it’s a boy and let’s not forget the one where you hang a ring over the belly! The decision to learn what the sex of your baby will be is purely personal so here’s my own opinion on the matter.

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For my first, I wanted it to be a surprise. My husband, on the other hand, just had to know if his firstborn was going to be a boy or a girl. So we decided to find out and it was a girl. Therefore, the second go-round I had to know whether it was going to be another girl or a boy. For me, two girls would have done it and that would be the end of that. Instead, we had a son. We had one of each. Of course, everyone said “Oh you have your pair now, you’re done.” Now, here I am pregnant with our third baby. This is it!

To Find Out or Not to Find Out

It seems that the vast majority of people these days are choosing to find out what the sex of their baby will be. In fact, the booming trend of gender-reveal parties has become quite a hit. I have decided NOT to find out what this baby will be. When we tell people of our decision to wait and not find out most of them are understanding, given the fact that we have our pair. That shouldn’t matter one way or the other. People will always have opinions, which is why you should make such decisions based on what you want. Not what everyone thinks you should do. Truth be told, I know of 2 people personally who wanted to find out what the gender of their baby would be and the baby ended up being the opposite of what they were told! It does happen. If you’re weighing the idea of finding out baby’s gender ahead of time or not, here are just some pointers to keep in mind.

The Element of Surprise
It is going to be a surprise one way or the other when you do find out what the baby will be. For those who do opt to find out ahead of time, they won’t know before their 16-20 week ultrasound. Those first 4 months you really don’t know. Guessing what you’re having can be fun and worthwhile. Waiting until the birth of your baby to find out if it’s a boy or a girl adds to the excitement of your baby and learning whether your guess was right. After you’ve had 2 kids, it’s like ‘been there, done that’. It’s still exciting, but it’s not like with your first baby, so for me waiting this time around will add to the excitement of this baby’s arrival (Again, this is a matter of opinion).

Anyone who has experienced childbirth will tell you, it’s not the most pleasant thing in the world. Many women consider whether to have an all-natural birth or get the anesthesia. I’ve had a c-section and a natural birth. With my second, I thought I’d start off natural and see how well I could tolerate the pain level leaving the option of an epidural open. As it turned out, my second baby came so fast I didn’t have the choice to get an epidural even if I really wanted one. Let me say this, if you are planning on having an all-natural birth then waiting to find out your baby’s sex will give you the motivation you need to bear through it. The anticipation of finding out if you’re about to hold a baby boy or a baby girl outweighs the pain. Of course, regardless of how you plan on delivering your baby, the anticipation of finally finding out is definitely motivating enough.

Going Neutral
You may be the type of person that wants to go all out in pink or blue and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. For me, even though we knew we were having a girl with our first I didn’t want everything pinked out. I chose mostly neutral things, especially all of our big baby items but blankets and toys too, so that they could be passed down to our future children. If you’ve noticed, even the baby toys are very gender specific for girls with lots of pink butterflies and princess themes. Despite my efforts, we still received a lot of pink stuff for our baby girl before she was born. In not finding out the gender ahead of time you force people to get creative in choosing gender neutral gifts.

No matter what you decide in finding out baby’s gender, it will be the right choice for you. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Everyone has their reasons and you may not agree with mine. The way I see it, there are many positive aspects to either choice. What choice did you make when you found out you were expecting?

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